Win back your ex or cut bait and move on? Chances are you’ve asked yourself the same question a thousand times recently. And, wouldn’t it be just grand if all you had to do was make the decision and all the logical steps magically appeared before you, leading you to the life you want? Sure. But, it is possible to make it a little easier on yourself when faced with this dilemma. And, if you thinking of that moving on is the best path to take, here are five steps listed for your careful consideration:
*Make a firm decision that it’s over, really over.
You’ve made a decision and fired the big torpedo, and once the bomb has left the hanger, there’s no turning back. You now going to fritter time in wasteful emotion? Are you going to be big kid about it or sit and cry, lamenting the past? Which is more productive and better for you and your future? Just remember: if it was really working, you wouldn’t be where you are.
*Let it all hang out
I can’t emphasize this enough: do not run from your suffering. It’s going to track you down anyway. Invite it in. Let it sit a while. Make friends with it. Just like most of us, it just wants to be seen and recognized. Once this is done, it is much more likely to leave on its own. Wouldn’t it be much better without all the histrionics?
*Do Something to Prove It’s Over
Take the love letters out, if you have any, and burn them in chiminea. Shatter some keepsake they once gave you. Throw out the clothing they bought you. This doesn’t have to be an act of anger, but it is an act of liberation. You don’t want to win your ex back, instead you’re saying the big, “See ya!” In other words, you’re setting yourself free. There should be some joy in that, don’t you think?
*Seek Out Old Friends
Maybe you’ve lost track of your friends during your relationship. It happens all the time. Remember what life was like before your involvement. Who did you hang out with? What did you do? Give yourself a chance to get reacquainted with your lost friends. Don’t get all corny here. “Hey, I’m kinda going through a rough spot. Be nice if we could do dinner.” But, look to the future and don’t drag your friends down with the endless tales of what’s gone wrong for you. Get to know them and what’s going on in their lives. It’ll help you get out of yourself a little.
*Don’t forget about Number One
Drinking Long Island Iced Teas and watching “They Way We Were” a thousand times isn’t going to cut it. Neither is stuffing yourself with chocolate and potatoes. Be well. Think well of yourself. Treat your body with respect. Get out and walk regularly or take up jogging or aerobics. You stand a much better chance of engaging a new interest in your life if you’re engaged, as simple as it sounds.
So, to summarize: you know in your heart of hearts of it’s best to win back your ex, or if it’s time to move on. You really do. Trust yourself instincts and make decisions that are your good for yourself and for what lead you a more fulfilling life. You can do this. You really can.
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